What do you want?
If you could have your deepest heart’s desire fulfilled what would it be?
(To cut our strings and be alive?)
For many people who seek authenticity and empowerment, what they want is the ability to freely express themselves, to speak from their heart and be heard, to experience themselves in a genuine way and to be bigger than they have allowed themselves to be until now.
I wrote recently about the difference between wishing and wanting (here), but the gist of it is that wishes are for when we want to change reality (which is impossible) while wanting is something that we desire for ourselves and over which we actually have some control.
A Shakespeare teacher of mine once told me, as I struggled to grasp Shakespeare’s language, that we are born with the “soul of giants and the imagination of giants, and yet we go through life thinking that we are small.” (Paraphrased.)
Hamlet explains this philosophy in a way to Rosencrantz and Guildenstern when they argue over whether Denmark is a prison, “Why then ’tis none to you; for there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so. To me it is a prison.”
(And this skull is my best friend.)
What does this have to do with communication and being more authentic? Everything.
James Hollis, a renowned Jungian Psychologist and author says in his book Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life, “We tend to get what we unconsciously expect, and may go to great lengths to bring it about.” Which essentially means that if we expect to be small, if we expect to be disregarded and if we expect to be a disappointment, then we will seek out those people and those situations which will recreate that for us.
(Jame Hollis, Ph.D.)
For those actors who are working with Shakespeare’s text, the hardest thing to do is to get out of the way and let the words flow unfettered. We think that we need to be big in order for the language to make sense. However, the greatest actors know that all you need to do is be. Shakespeare already took care of the rest.
(Seriously dude, I got this.)
For those of us who deal in the more mundane world of communication, what holds us back, what interrupts our ability to express the largeness of our own souls is our expectation that there is something missing, that if we only had certain things, then we would be big enough. This is a lie.
When we speak from the largeness of our souls, when we finally get out of our own way, we are incredibly successful, happy and kind.
Ask yourself if this is what you want and if you are willing to trust yourself with the knowledge that, when it comes to authenticity, there is nothing that you are missing. You are enough. In fact, you are more than enough.
You are giant.